Enneagram Book

If you are already reading this and a two is, in fact, angry with you, I hate to say it, but its sort of “two late;” excuse the pun. Anyway, if you are the lucky individual who is the target of an angry two, dig in your heels because from now on nothing makes much sense.
First of all, you need to know that no matter how things turn out between you and your two friend, you are doing the right thing if they think you are “the bad guy.’ this is an enneagramatic type that may not be consciously aware of it, but they are crying out for limits and someone to actually not respond well to their outpourings of generousity. If you happen to be the one who is up for the challenge of calling a two out on their BS, then you need to become the epitome of “tough love.”

An angry two will become, persistant, deceitful, manipulative, and continue to play the innocent card amidst the reality of the situation. If you have any of these characterisitc in your own personality, the two of you will become embroiled in double talk, nonsense, indebtedness, entitlement, and a quicksand mess of pleading your case.
So, that being said, it is necessary to dig in you heels and feel sure of where you stand in relation to the whole situation. Here are some pointers:

Here are the 5 Ways to Deal with an Angry Enneagram Type 2 (Two):
1. Keep to the hard tacks- think about what you absolutely need from this person and try to keep the discussion focused on how to get that executed.
2. Make it clear that past history, and what this person has done for you has no bearing on the necessity of the situation at hand. What you need now is what you need now. No explanation necessary.
3. Despite you own feelings and opinions about this person try your hardest to clear your own heart of hard feelings about them and if you are indebted to them, make peace with that or pay up.
4. Tell this person how much you appreciate them and all they do, then tell them that despite your warm feelings about who they are, this unresolved situation is still present.
5. Ask them if they are willing to take responsibilty for their part in solving the situation at hand, if they are still too insulted to say yes, then it is time to resort to the “bad cop” role of explicitly telling them what you want and then letting it go.

So hopefully things work out between you and this person, but remember it may take awhile. This is a person who may feign patience but is not necessarily patient with themselves or others, so give them a break if they show any amount of receptiveness to your confrontation. If they feel that you are not rejecting them, they will become much easier to work with. Good luck!

Meaghan Quinn is a writer and dedicated truthseeker who is convinced of finding spirit everywhere.

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